For most of my life, I thought the important lessons happened outside of work. Long before I ever managed a project, facilitated a workshop, or navigated a difficult stakeholder conversation, I’d already spent years learning about people. Standing in noisy nightclubs taught me how to start conversations. Friendships taught me how to maintain them. Dating […]
Spoiler alert: I do not sit down each week and write a fresh blog post just before it goes live like I’m Carrie Bradshaw at her laptop, chain-smoking over a cosmopolitan and wondering if men are, in fact, just emotionally unavailable shoes. That said… sometimes when I reread my posts before I hit publish or […]
Dear Grindr and Madonna, Nobody asked for this. And I say that with respect. Well, not respect exactly. More like the strained patience of a gay man who simply wanted to open an app in peace and instead got drafted into a pop rollout. I understand the idea. Grindr. Madonna. The gays. A cross-promotion. A […]
My brain is very, very good at being busy. Not in a sad, overworked, “I’ve chained my worth to productivity” kind of way.More in a click, whirr, go kind of way. If there’s something to do, somewhere to be, a problem to solve, a project to move, a plan to make, an admin task to […]
Beresford Sundays have given me a few stories over the years. There was the time I got so drunk I decided to confront an international pop star who happened to be there, and somehow the confrontation was charming enough that it ended in a date. And then there was the time a guy I went […]
For some reason, over the past few weeks, I’ve started doing something that feels oddly unfamiliar and deeply familiar at the same time: I’ve been watching Friday night footy. NRL. On purpose. Enjoying it. And I can’t fully explain why. It’s not like I’ve suddenly become one of those people with strong opinions about forward […]
I think one of the strangest parts of getting older is realising your parents were never as fixed, certain, or all-knowing as they seemed when you were a kid. At some point, without really noticing when it happened, I came to a conclusion that unsettled me in a way I’m still sitting with: It really […]
There comes a point on some nights out where I stop talking. Not because I’m in a mood.Not because I’m bored.Not because I’m cooked.Not because I suddenly have nothing to say. It’s usually because every sound in the room is already saying so much. One minute I’m fine. Drink in hand. Conversation flowing. Music loud […]
Birthdays feel different now. Less main character montage.More quiet stocktake. No dramatic reinvention. No manifesto. No sudden urge to become a person who enjoys hiking or journaling in a linen set. Just a pause. A moment to look around at the life I’ve built and admit (a little reluctantly, because humility is so important) that […]
We talk a lot about intimacy like it only really counts if it’s romantic or sexual. Like closeness only becomes meaningful once there’s desire attached to it.Like being deeply known only matters if someone wants to kiss you. But some of the most intimate relationships in my life have been friendships.Quiet ones. Steady ones. The […]
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