Content warning: This post discusses the alleged murder of Jesse Baird and Luke Davies, the current trial, grief, and the emotional impact on Sydney’s LGBTQIA+ community. It does not go into graphic detail. There are some stories that do not leave when the headlines move on. They sit somewhere in the body. Quietly. Heavily. Waiting. […]
Father’s Day is one of those days that feels simple until it isn’t. On paper, it should be straightforward. You call your dad. You send a message. Maybe you buy a card that says something emotionally generic because apparently men are only allowed to be described as “legend,” “mate,” or “BBQ king” once a year. […]
I am very capable of being social. Sometimes, shockingly so. I can hold a conversation.I can work a room.I can facilitate a meeting.I can make small talk with a stranger.I can be warm, funny, present, engaged, and socially functional in a way that suggests I have, at some point, read the manual. But only if […]
I’ve recently moved into a new role at work. Another promotion. Very exciting. Very grown-up. Very “please update the organisational chart.” My new title is: Operational Excellence Lead. Which sounds important. It sounds like I should be walking through an airport in a navy suit while someone waits nearby holding an iPad with my surname […]
A mutual friend once decided I needed a holiday romance. You know the kind of friend. Equal parts cupid and chaos agent. The sort who sees two gay men in the same country and goes, “Oh my god, you’d be perfect for each other.” And for a brief moment, we kind of were. I was […]
For most of my life, I thought the important lessons happened outside of work. Long before I ever managed a project, facilitated a workshop, or navigated a difficult stakeholder conversation, I’d already spent years learning about people. Standing in noisy nightclubs taught me how to start conversations. Friendships taught me how to maintain them. Dating […]
Spoiler alert: I do not sit down each week and write a fresh blog post just before it goes live like I’m Carrie Bradshaw at her laptop, chain-smoking over a cosmopolitan and wondering if men are, in fact, just emotionally unavailable shoes. That said… sometimes when I reread my posts before I hit publish or […]
Dear Grindr and Madonna, Nobody asked for this. And I say that with respect. Well, not respect exactly. More like the strained patience of a gay man who simply wanted to open an app in peace and instead got drafted into a pop rollout. I understand the idea. Grindr. Madonna. The gays. A cross-promotion. A […]
My brain is very, very good at being busy. Not in a sad, overworked, “I’ve chained my worth to productivity” kind of way.More in a click, whirr, go kind of way. If there’s something to do, somewhere to be, a problem to solve, a project to move, a plan to make, an admin task to […]
Beresford Sundays have given me a few stories over the years. There was the time I got so drunk I decided to confront an international pop star who happened to be there, and somehow the confrontation was charming enough that it ended in a date. And then there was the time a guy I went […]
