Content warning: This post discusses the alleged murder of Jesse Baird and Luke Davies, the current trial, grief, and the emotional impact on Sydney’s LGBTQIA+ community. It does not go into graphic detail. There are some stories that do not leave when the headlines move on. They sit somewhere in the body. Quietly. Heavily. Waiting. […]
Some people give circuit parties a bad rap. And look, I get it. From the outside, it is very easy to reduce the whole thing to shirtless men, tribal beats, sunglasses indoors, suspicious amounts of hydration, and someone yelling “one more!” at 7:42 in the morning like they are not actively negotiating with their nervous […]
Father’s Day is one of those days that feels simple until it isn’t. On paper, it should be straightforward. You call your dad. You send a message. Maybe you buy a card that says something emotionally generic because apparently men are only allowed to be described as “legend,” “mate,” or “BBQ king” once a year. […]
I am very capable of being social. Sometimes, shockingly so. I can hold a conversation.I can work a room.I can facilitate a meeting.I can make small talk with a stranger.I can be warm, funny, present, engaged, and socially functional in a way that suggests I have, at some point, read the manual. But only if […]
High school sex education taught me a lot. Honestly, probably more than it taught some straight men. I learned about periods.I learned about pregnancy.I learned about contraception.I learned about vaginas, ovaries, fallopian tubes, cervical mucus, and the general logistics of heterosexual reproduction. At this point, I have explained parts of the female reproductive system to […]
In my last blog, I wrote about the running joke that gay men don’t know how to sit properly. The theory was simple. Maybe some of us spent so many of our formative years trying not to sit a certain way, move a certain way, talk a certain way, or give too much away, that […]
There’s a running joke that gay men don’t know how to sit properly. And honestly? Fair. We do have a tendency to approach chairs less like furniture and more like an abstract concept. One leg tucked under us.One arm thrown over the back.Sideways.Diagonal.Perched.Folded.Draped.Somewhere between “Victorian fainting couch” and “injured flamingo.” Put a gay man in […]
I’ve recently moved into a new role at work. Another promotion. Very exciting. Very grown-up. Very “please update the organisational chart.” My new title is: Operational Excellence Lead. Which sounds important. It sounds like I should be walking through an airport in a navy suit while someone waits nearby holding an iPad with my surname […]
Controversial opinion, but if you don’t have a face pic on Grindr, Scruff, or any gay app, you might actually be opening yourself up to more rejection later. I know.Bold. Brave. Potentially unpopular. But hear me out. Because when there’s no face pic, people don’t stop imagining what you look like. They just start building […]
A mutual friend once decided I needed a holiday romance. You know the kind of friend. Equal parts cupid and chaos agent. The sort who sees two gay men in the same country and goes, “Oh my god, you’d be perfect for each other.” And for a brief moment, we kind of were. I was […]
