Controversial opinion, but if you don’t have a face pic on Grindr, Scruff, or any gay app, you might actually be opening yourself up to more rejection later. I know.Bold. Brave. Potentially unpopular. But hear me out. Because when there’s no face pic, people don’t stop imagining what you look like. They just start building […]
A mutual friend once decided I needed a holiday romance. You know the kind of friend. Equal parts cupid and chaos agent. The sort who sees two gay men in the same country and goes, “Oh my god, you’d be perfect for each other.” And for a brief moment, we kind of were. I was […]
I have a confession to make: I love MomTok. Or at least, what I think is called MomTok. Mums who become content creators. Domestic influencers. Women with ring lights, label makers, and the kind of kitchen storage systems that suggest either incredible organisation or a quiet cry for help. Now, I’m 36, so I do […]
There’s a strange thing that happens when something special becomes too available. It stops feeling special. Which sounds obvious, but apparently it takes a month of Messina specials being available all at once for me to realise I have very strong feelings about scarcity, anticipation, and gelato-based community engagement. Because the Messina special was never […]
As Pride Month comes to an end, it feels like the right time to say something slightly controversial but hopefully understood in the spirit it’s intended. Every year at work, someone asks me if I want a company Pride shirt. And every year, I say no. Not aggressively.Not dramatically.Not in a way that suggests I’m […]
For most of my life, I thought the important lessons happened outside of work. Long before I ever managed a project, facilitated a workshop, or navigated a difficult stakeholder conversation, I’d already spent years learning about people. Standing in noisy nightclubs taught me how to start conversations. Friendships taught me how to maintain them. Dating […]
Spoiler alert: I do not sit down each week and write a fresh blog post just before it goes live like I’m Carrie Bradshaw at her laptop, chain-smoking over a cosmopolitan and wondering if men are, in fact, just emotionally unavailable shoes. That said… sometimes when I reread my posts before I hit publish or […]
Dear Grindr and Madonna, Nobody asked for this. And I say that with respect. Well, not respect exactly. More like the strained patience of a gay man who simply wanted to open an app in peace and instead got drafted into a pop rollout. I understand the idea. Grindr. Madonna. The gays. A cross-promotion. A […]
I’ve touched on this before, the idea that Sydney changes, and so does gay Sydney. The venues, the parties, the people, the energy of it all. But I keep coming back to it, because I think it deserves its own space. And maybe because the more I think about it, the less I see that […]
My brain is very, very good at being busy. Not in a sad, overworked, “I’ve chained my worth to productivity” kind of way.More in a click, whirr, go kind of way. If there’s something to do, somewhere to be, a problem to solve, a project to move, a plan to make, an admin task to […]
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