It’s a strange thing, seeing your friends grieve.Not quietly. Not politely. But in real time, faces crumpling, bodies shaking, holding each other because words aren’t enough. Usually time together is fun, chaotic.Most of my memories live in the corners of dancefloors or for some reason, someones kitchen. There’s glitter and noise in the way I […]
This is a follow-up to an Instagram post I shared back in March 2021. A reflection on one of the hardest points in my life, and everything that’s shifted since. You can view the post here: https://www.instagram.com/p/CMfuy96Hl3I/?igsh=MThyMmpiMmkwdXNvYw== Back then, I was deep in anxiety, or at least, that’s what I thought.Every day felt like I […]
Because some thoughts don’t ask to be shared. They just linger. Soft. Half-formed. A bit too small for a full conversation, but too loud to ignore. They’re the ones I usually keep in my Notes app.The ones that hit me walking to work or mid-scroll.The ones I try to laugh off or forget, but they […]
Earlier this year, I drove home for Dad’s birthday. It was meant to be a celebration, but with dementia in the picture, nothing stays simple for long. Tensions were rising. My mum and sister were caught in the kind of emotional back-and-forth that only happens when love meets fear and no one knows quite what […]
No one warns you that becoming a morning gym person also turns you into someone who finds peace in… relentless kick drums.Lately, I’ve been deep in it. Hard techno, industrial beats, stuff that sounds like it could summon a demon or help me finish a spreadsheet faster. And weirdly, it’s been calming.Something about the repetition. […]
Even when what we really want is a quiet night in, warm food, phone on Do Not Disturb, maybe a bit of journaling (hello this blog!) or trash TV, there’s still that pull. That voice that whispers,“But what if something happens?”What if you miss a moment, a connection, a memory? Don’t get me wrong, I […]
Black activewear. White crew socks hiked just so. Designer sunglasses, even if it’s overcast.Bonus points if there’s a cross-body bag involved. And if your shorts aren’t at least flirting with indecency… are you even going to brunch? It’s not a dress code.It’s a vibe alignment protocol. And look, I’m not above it. I’ve worn the […]
Sometimes I’m hard on myself.Not just in the get your shit together kind of way, but in the way where I feel like I owe the world a version of me that’s always switched on. Motivated. Supportive. Smiling. Wise. Funny. Energising. And the weird part is, I like being that guy. I like showing up […]
There’s a strange kind of loneliness that creeps in when the party stops. Having worked in gay nightlife for years, I was surrounded by people who seemed to want to be my friend. But stepping away made it clear that some of those connections were only as deep as the guest list. Once the perceived […]
Lately, it’s felt like our community has been carrying a quiet weight. In just a few weeks, we’ve seen beautiful souls around us facing the unimaginable. Lives lost, lives altered, and lives still fighting. Whether it’s mental health battles, sudden medical emergencies, or accidents that shake us. It’s been a lot. It reminds us that […]
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