An Open Letter to Grindr and Madonna

Dear Grindr and Madonna, Nobody asked for this. And I say that with respect. Well, not respect exactly. More like the strained patience of a gay man who simply wanted to open an app in peace and instead got drafted into a pop rollout. I understand the idea. Grindr. Madonna. The gays. A cross-promotion. A […]

Is It Chemistry or Is It Just Chemicals?

There’s a particular kind of romance that thrives between about 11pm and sunrise. It starts on dance floors. In smokers’ areas. In the line for the bathroom. In that strange, heightened stretch of the night where everyone’s sweaty, gorgeous, open, and just vulnerable enough to start talking like the night means more than it probably […]

Beresford, Vodka Sodas, and Old Wounds

Beresford Sundays have given me a few stories over the years. There was the time I got so drunk I decided to confront an international pop star who happened to be there, and somehow the confrontation was charming enough that it ended in a date. And then there was the time a guy I went […]

Watching the Footy for the Plot

For some reason, over the past few weeks, I’ve started doing something that feels oddly unfamiliar and deeply familiar at the same time: I’ve been watching Friday night footy. NRL. On purpose. Enjoying it. And I can’t fully explain why. It’s not like I’ve suddenly become one of those people with strong opinions about forward […]

The Sydney Gay Calendar (A Seasonal Guide)

Sydney doesn’t really have four seasons. It has gay seasons. Small, rotating windows of parties, long weekends, questionable decisions, and the recurring belief that this one will be chill. Right now, we’re in Mardi Gras Recovery. Also known as the time of year when every gay man in Sydney is either coughing glitter, apologising to […]

When the Shirts Come Off

There’s a moment at gay parties when the shirts start coming off. Not just in nightclubs, everywhere. At pre-drinks. At the afters. At a BBQ that was absolutely not advertised as “shirts optional” but somehow becomes that anyway. One minute everyone’s dressed. The next, someone has decided it’s time. And once one shirt comes off, […]

The Rise of the Himbo (And Why I’m Leaning In)

There’s been a cultural shift lately.A quiet but noticeable one. The rise of the himbo.And, alongside him… the gooner. Two archetypes that, on paper, sound like they shouldn’t work.One is wholesome, charming, emotionally available but maybe not overthinking things.The other is… blissfully checked out and enjoying himself a little too much. And yet, somehow, they’ve […]

Sober-Curious (Yes, I’m Gay, I Know)

Being sober-curious as a gay man feels… rebellious. Not in a storm the gates kind of way, more in a quietly ordering something non-alcoholic and watching the room subtly recalibrate kind of way. I’m talking about alcohol, specifically how my relationship with drinking has shifted lately. And honestly? It’s been feeling better. The Bit No […]