Being sober-curious as a gay man feels… rebellious. Not in a storm the gates kind of way, more in a quietly ordering something non-alcoholic and watching the room subtly recalibrate kind of way. I’m talking about alcohol, specifically how my relationship with drinking has shifted lately. And honestly? It’s been feeling better. The Bit No […]
Let’s talk about the curse of the vers. Not the “best of both worlds” that Hannah Montana once sang about, but the tragic reality of being a versatile man in a city experiencing a severe top shortage. Sydney is overflowing with bottoms. We’re talking surplus. Overstock. Bottoms on sale, two-for-one, next-day delivery. And me? I’m […]
There are New Year’s kisses, and then there are New Year’s kisses™. The kind that pull you in and shut your brain up for once. The kind that feel like yes, like more of that, like oh… hello. This year, I got the second kind. When the countdown hit zero, I found myself kissing someone, […]
New Year’s Day always feels different from New Year’s Eve.Eve is loud, sparkly, chaotic! A night where everyone collectively decides to be their most unhinged, glitter-covered selves.But New Year’s Day?That’s the exhale.The slow morning.The soft reset.The quiet moment when the world feels suspended between who we were and who we’re becoming. This year, I’m not […]
I’m still thinking about Heated Rivalry. Like, walking around the apartment smiling to myself thinking about it. I expected it to be fun. Sexy. A guilty pleasure kind of show you half-watch in bed. But somewhere between episode one and the finale, it became something else entirely, tender, intimate, grounding. The kind of gay love […]
Driving back “home” to Orange for Christmas, I felt this strange blend of nostalgia, affection, and a quiet sense of dislocation. The streets are familiar. The same pubs, the same corner shops, the same footpaths cracking in all the same places. A few new cafés have appeared, a couple of shiny developments on the edge […]
I did it. I asked AI to build me my dream man, like a Sims character meets emotionally available gym bro, and I think I’ve accidentally ruined dating forever. It started innocently enough: curiosity, boredom, and a rogue sprinkle of romantic delusion. “What would he look like?” I wondered. And so I fed the machine […]
(And Why It’s Not Entirely Wrong) If you’ve spent more than 10 minutes in Sydney’s gay scene or, honestly, 10 minutes on Scruff Global, you’ve probably heard it all: “Sydney gays are flaky.” “Sydney gays are cliquey.” “Sydney gays are intimidating.” “Sydney gays are obsessed with aesthetics.” “Sydney gays don’t date, they network.” And here’s […]
I’ve already started mentally preparing to go home for Christmas.Not because I’m counting down with excitement, but because I’m preparing myself emotionally, in case this is the last one Dad remembers.If he remembers it at all. That thought has been sitting quietly in the background for weeks now.Unspoken but heavy.Not just the grief of what’s […]
Sometimes I forget that I was once in a throuple.Other times, I remember it very clearly and think,“Wow. That was my actual life.” Back then, it felt like something special.Unconventional, yes, but intimate. Familiar. I was the third, joining two men who had already been together for what felt like forever.I slotted in gently, like […]
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