Father’s Day this year hits me with a mix of emotions.

This morning, scrolling Instagram, my feed was full of gay dads, and honestly? It made me so happy. Whether it’s couples who’ve adopted, dads who’ve gone through surrogacy, gay men who’ve donated to lesbian couples, or men who lived a past life as a closeted “straight” dad, it fills my heart with joy. Each post is proof that there are so many different ways to be a father, and so many new shapes that family can take.

It’s visibility I never had growing up. It’s powerful. And it matters.

My Own Dad

Then there’s my own dad.

Father’s Day is a little heavier for me now. With his dementia, the man I grew up with is changing. Some days he’s still himself; warm, witty, familiar. Other days, there are gaps, moments where he feels further away. Add to that the guilt of being in Sydney while he’s back home in Orange, and it’s… a lot.

But even through the sadness and the fear of what’s ahead, today still reminds me of gratitude. Gratitude that I have him, that he shaped me, and that even as the memories fade, the love doesn’t.

The Bigger Picture

So when I see gay dads filling my feed today, I think about the next generation. The kids growing up with queer parents who’ll never have to question whether their family is “normal.” The boys in school who might still look up to athletes and role models, but who will also see dads like mine, dads who love them unconditionally.

And that gives me hope.

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If today brings up mixed feelings for you too, you’re not alone.

Dementia support: In Australia, Dementia Australia offers resources, guidance, and a helpline: 1800 100 500.

Carer support: Carer Gateway is available on 1800 422 737 for anyone supporting a loved one.

LGBTQ+ family building: If you’re interested in exploring surrogacy, adoption, or donation, Rainbow Families provides resources and community support.

Because Father’s Day isn’t always simple. It can hold joy and sadness at the same time. And that’s okay.